Well it’s that time again when we decide it’s time for the new you. A time to change. A new year and a new start. Everything begins with a start. It’s the origin of action, as I have talked about in A Gentle Awakening “So now we start, the entrance and doorway to change.”
The beginning of the year is always a good place to start, however we can start whenever we choose and at whatever time of the day.
This year for me has been a mix of emotions. I’ve learned a lot about myself through the difficulties I’ve faced. There will always be obstacles. In practice I’ve learned I sometimes need to tread more lightly and increasingly work more at the clients pace. I’ve learned that just being present more and more can have such a positive impact on a persons life.
I am also learning to work with my adhd and the stresses that gives me, as I grow older my faculties are not as sharp as they were and so I have to be more mindful of how I move think and interact with the world around me. At time it’s like I’m on a parallel road observing the traffic and sometimes I find my road intersects and then veers away.
I feel that goals are important to me. They allow me to achieve in a manner that improves my wellbeing. So I will set goals, not resolutions.
1- build my counselling practice.
2 – go fishing more.
3 – work on my podcast.
4 – go camping with my dog.
5 – be more present with my family.
I stress these are goals, not resolutions. I will work at them and at times forget them, but I can always start again.
I realise that I’m not a completed being, I’m a human being in progress, and sometimes that progress is slow, and yet I have a brain that is a turbo.
“Go placidly amidst the noise and haste and remember what peace there is in silence.”
So that’s it for the year. Farewell to the learning and the wins and the pitfalls and the missed opportunities. They’re all part and parcel of this wonderful now. The endless opportunities are waiting round the corner. What they’ll be will be the ultimate surprise.
And finally, a poem.
A prayer for the pessimist
Here’s to hope and all it brings.
A friendly smile, a heart that sings.
And when the day ends full of pain.
Search for sunshine behind the rain.
Look for blossoms amid the weeds.
Discern your wanting, from your needs.
Don’t say farewell with sad regret.
Remember instead, the day you first met.
Happy New Year
A Thirsk Counsellor
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hi there. I’m Paul Cullen. A Thirsk Counsellor registered with the BACP. I’m interested in all aspects of mental health and well-being and feel it’s important that we each find our way to our own journey.
Originally a Lancashire Lad, I know live in my adopted county of North Yorkshire, with my family.
Have a mentally healthy day.